Is Love Enough to Sustain rapport?

If love is not always enough, what then do we need to keep our relationships going strong? Is having the option of a divorce makes it too easy for us to walk away if we think that love is not enough? Is love enough or is something more needed? Are divorces happening at such an alarming rate because there was not enough to the relationship to begin with?

Would you build a five story house on sand or would you build a house without steel? No, you would build your mansion on solid ground to avoid it washing away in high tide. Could you fathom a five-story house built on sand or a house built with no steel? But that is exactly what you would be doing if you did not build your relationship on a sturdy foundation. For a relationship to succeed, it has to be built on a strong foundation. Love is like a house and depending on the type of materials that it was built with, it can either crumble or weather the storm. A love that is built on a shaky foundation will be easily shaken and tossed up in the storm. There should be few things in life that can split apart a strong foundation and one of those is death. That would be the death of your partner. The death of a child can be very traumatic, but, unless the foundation was already shaky, the death of a child won't and shouldn't destroy the foundation.

However, a relationship that has been built on a strong foundation still has to be maintained throughout the years. Just like a house, door hinges gets rusty and needs to be oiled, flooring gets worn out and needs to be re-placed or parts of the ceiling is caving in so you either have to get patch up the ceiling or get a new roof all together. In other words, there are going to be things in the relationship that were useful in the beginning stages of your relationship but are useless now. Get rid of it. Both of you are now at a different stage in your relationship than you were a few years ago. Now is the time to incorporate new things into the relationship. Look around your love house and see what new furniture can be bought to match with the new curtains that you just put up.

Remember, you put a lot of hard work into putting up those new curtains, so make sure the new furniture matches. This means that it would be disappointing if one of you just signed up for personal development courses, but the other person just wants to spend time in the country side getting back to nature and thinks personal development courses are a waste of time. While the two of you may not be interested in the same things, it is vital that both of you are on the same page when it comes to working on and improving your relationship. Make it a goal to constantly work on your relationship. However, if you have not been doing the work, there is going to be a build up of grime and dirt in corners that you did not even knew existed. You now have to decide if the relationship is worth saving and if it is, then you have to get out the cleaning gloves and the disinfectant and begin to scrub real hard to get rid of the build up. Unfortunately, this is where a lot of individuals bail on their relationship.

With the added pressures of children, jobs, bills and other responsibilities, couples are prone to ignore doing the conscious work that is needed on the relationship. Understandably, the relationship will be in a lot of trouble. But depending on the original foundation, this is where love comes in. Having a deep love and respect for each other will help to make the work a bit easier and it will help to sustain and heal the relationship. Having deep and open communication with each other is very important during the relationship and it will help to keep the chemistry flowing. Find a few minutes each day to do fun and creative things with each other. This way you get to not only spend time away from the pressing household responsibilities but you also get to spend some quality time together and rejuvenate your relationship.